What we are missing……

We had a great many outstanding speakers at the Different Path seminar.  One of the best presentations of the afternoon was by Julian Schwartz.  This lawyer provided a diagram of how parties communicate in a typical divorce case in a case that is handled outside the collaborative practice.  Basically the parties communicate through their attorney OR they communicate through a mediator.  The parties present evidence to a judge OR they talk to the mental health professional conducting a social study.  The parties do not, however, communicate.  Then the lawyer provided a diagram of how parties resolve their disputes through the collaborative practice.  The one thing that stuck out in Mr. Schwartz’s presentation was that parties had the ability to communicate with a mental health professional to resolve their child custody issues.  By having the ability to communicate the parties resumed their status as parents and tried to work together to make sure their child was shielded from the harmful effects of the divorce process.

So how do we help assist divorcing parties to communicate when we are not using the collaborative model?  The answer is simple, we introduce the parties to a mental health professional.  We can use that mental health professional in many ways.   To me, mental health professionals that address the needs of the child in a non threatening, nuetral way will go a long way in fostering TRUST and COMMUNICATION between the parties.  In plain English, appoint a court appointed therapist for the child, appoint a parenting coordinator, or even a parent facilitator.  The cost of inclusion?  A fraction of what the parents would otherwise be paying if the case were to be prepared or presented at trial.

2 thoughts on “What we are missing……

  1. I’m impressed, I must say. Rarely doo I come across a
    blog that’s both equally educative annd engaging, and let
    me tell you, you’ve hiit the nail on the head. The problem is something tjat not
    enough men and women are speaking intelligently about.
    Now i’m very happy that I came across this during mmy search for something concerning this.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s