Parents walked into a conference room with their two attorneys. Both parents were extremely stressed and worried. Both attorneys knew that their clients wanted to resolve their problems amicably.
“Forget who gets custody. Take that off the table for the moment.” Said one lawyer. “Focus on how your going to meet the needs of your kids.” The parents looked like they lost a great weight off their back. Mom started “Well our 5 year old needs to be home schooled, he has emotional problems and will suffer if he has to go into public school. Lets wait until the spring and see how he does.” Dad looked at Mom “Well it’s time he got into public school, it will be good for him to be with other kids.”
The lawyer’s excused themselves from the room and started talking to one another. Clearly the parents had the ability to communicate with one another and were reasonable in their positions. The attorneys agreed – give the parents a chance to solve their problem themselves.
Within a 1/2 hour the parents had created an agreement for how they would share the child for the next 90 days. They focused on the child’s needs and created a parenting schedule that solved the problem. “Great job” said one lawyer. “Now here’s the thing, your agreement might work, it might not, that truly doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you are working together as parents and focusing on your kids issues.” The attorneys referred the parents to see a therapist who specialized in cooperative parenting and now hope for the best.
In one simple step the attorney’s helped these parents through a difficult time. Parents who simply want to resolve their issues simply need a little direction and guidance. Through some work and patience it’s our hope that this case will turn out just fine. While every case will not be so easily solved, parties should always be respected and always be directed to solve their custody dispute based on to on the needs of their children.