Parents normally see teenagers as the one group that is most affected by divorce. Personally I disagree, I think teenagers are the simply the most outspoken group. All kids are affected by their parents’ divorce.
In their defense, teenagers are one step short of adulthood. They are thinking of college, entering military service or simply just getting out on their own. Teenagers don’t want to get dragged down in your problems. Teenagers have enough of their own.
At Kids First Parents Second we can give provide teenagers with some basic tips and coping skills. We can use journals and help teenagers manage thought and emotions. We can educate teenagers on the problems their peers have faced after divorce. We help teenagers learn how to better adjust to conflict so they can avoid losing the relationship of one or both of their parents.
It’s really hard to fool a teenager, they can pretty much figure out and dissect every exchange that you have between their divorcing parents. The research shows that teenagers are affected by the way their parent’s cooperate /fail to cooperate with one another. So if your a parent who constantly fights with your ex, don’t be surprised to see your teenager acting out.
Kids First Parents second agrees with the concept of having your adolescent have an active voice in how his or her life will be affected by the divorce. This child should be allocated certain fundamental rights in order that he or she can continue with the life they are wanting to enjoy. Teenagers, especially older teenagers shouldn’t be fought over, there’s little sense in a custody dispute over a 16, 17 or 18 year old.
Together, we can create a working environment that allows teenagers to survive the divorce process but it will require work, patience and to some degree, much needed patience.