Kids during divorce might feel hopelessly lost and confused about just about everything. When things get confusing we talk to our kids about finding a quiet zone, a place to stop, be left alone and think through how they are feeling and how they should direct their energies.
Every child needs a quiet zone, so we ask them to identify where that physical location is. Second, every child needs to know to count to 30 when they go into their quiet zone. When the feeling of being overwhelmed eases our kids are asked to identify how they are feeling and to write it down. The next question our kids ask….what do I do know? Perhaps there is someone they need to go talk to, perhaps there is an activity they can escape into.
The all important thing is getting the kids to recenter themselves and lower whatever anxiety they are feeling.
This message brought to you by Kids First Parents Second an organization dedicated to helping kids cope during and after divorce.