KFPS had a great talk with Dominic Bava out in Wisconsin last week. Dominic is a smart man. In short we combine kids seminar’s with mediation to create the perfect atmosphere to promote settlement among divorce litigants.
The KFPS seminar would be to, 1. help kids understand and cope with their parent’s divorce, 2. provide parent’s with training on how to resolve conflict. The children’s seminar would be for the day and the parent’s for 1/2 the day. We would have psychologists/counselor’s present as well representatives from Our Family Wizard.
The parent’s would spend the rest of the day trying to mediate disputes regarding their children – whether it be visitation or custody dispute. Families at the end of the day would receive a certificate at the end of the day – showing that they are a Kids First Parents’ Second Home. Kids would receive coupons at the end of the day giving them the right to have a kids night out, a kids pass, or even just a hug. Kids would also give their parent’s the
In running the kids seminar’s in conjunction with mediation, we accomplish a few things, 1. we create an environment that displays conflict in divorce in a negative light, 2. we provide focus to hep parent’s better address the needs of their children after a divorce.
Parent’s who reach settlement receive a pat on the back and a sense of accomplishment. Children leave the meeting with a sense that they are better in control of their environment.
If nothing else the system that we are going to implement will filter out those parent’s who wish to engage in cooperative parenting from the one’s who choose to engage in high conflict.