If you look at our materials, you will see we at KFPS constantly refer to Apples and Oranges. I can only imaging that people are saying “Enough Sossi we get it, people are different and can’t get along, get a new hobby or something.”
The whole point of writing about fruit is that we are not writing about nuts. By nuts I am talking about people who just happen to love high conflict and do not mind placing their child in the middle of their disputes.
Just like apple and oranges, our writings at KFPS do not help parent’s who want to wage against each other. We can not help your child cope with divorce if you can not reduce want to reduce tension and conflict. We would be wasting your time, and likewise you would be wasting ours.
I make this point because too often the courthouse is saturated with high conflict cases and we, as professionals, forget that many parents in divorce simply need direction and guidance.
Many court’s have mediation requirements prior to scheduling court hearings. The great thing about that is we create a way to filter the fruit from the nuts, meaning filtering out the agreed cases from the high conflict ones.
The trick I think is to create a system where we do not allow a fruit to evolve into a nut.