Helping kids through divorce seems to be a three part process. We need to help kids 1. identify their situation, 2. Express their emotions, 3. Learn coping skills. Helping kids recover from divorce requires both direction and a plan of action.
Formulating a plan of action requires meeting the needs of the individual child based upon their age of the child and their emotional makeup. It would seem to me that children between the ages of 9-12 would benefit from a pen pal (E Pal, whatever!) so they could share experiences and their story. Kids may feel that they can share more with their peers than with an adult.
All in all, divorce workshops for kids must be built on the foundation that we keep these kids involved in group projects and not be isolated. A parent’s divorce, after all, can be a very lonely time in the life of the child.
Think about it, hey Mom, I got a letter (Email) from my friend in England, he’s going through the same thing I am. I’m not alone in how I feel.
In a word, wow, that’s pretty awesome.
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