Own the moment, do not let others influence your decision making processes as to what you truly believe is in the best interest of your child.
From time to time I have a client pull me aside and say Matt, let me tell you something, “I just want to be fair and do what’s in my kids best interest.” The most important thing to remember is that this is ultimately your case, your family, and your child. There will never be a problem with you telling the lawyer straight out what you want done. Your lawyer’s job ultimately is to do what you ask them to do.
Regardless of what your lawyer tells you about your rights under the law, it is ultimately your right to decide how you will handle your disputed family issues. The only thing you need to be weary of is the consequence of your decision. Simply put, has your lawyer informed you of the RAMIFICATIONS of what is included in the proposed agreement?
Provided that you are informed and understand, you can have peace with how the case was resolved. You alone are the one who truly knows your needs as well as the needs of your ex in relationship and how the role you originally wanted in raising your children.
Offer suggestions to your attorney on how you want to settle the case. You do not have to sit on the sidelines and wait for your case to be resolved. Be active, be opinionated, and see if you can own the moment, finding a way to reach through to your ex and come up with a resolution on the issues you have in dispute.
Matt Sossi @kidsfirstparentssecond.org