Is Your Child Anxious About Summer Break?

 

For some young kids, extended summer time with mom or dad may be filled with anxiety.  If a child can not spell calendar it seems obvious that they also won’t know what a 30 day period means.  If words of encouragement from both mom and dad aren’t getting the job done here are a few simple tips may just do the trick.

Gizmo Gadget:  (Kids 6-10)

 Remember with every technological advance there are pluses and minuses.  The Gizmo Gadget is an phone that your child can call four different people.  At the drop of a hat your child has easy access to contact mom, dad, grandpa or their favorite pal.  A few things about Gizmo gadget:  Designed for comfort#1.  The device carry’s with it a geo tracker – so you may have privacy concerns, #2.  You may want to regulate the manner and means by which the gizmo gadget is used by your child, #3.  There may be disputes between the divorced parents as to which numbers get on the device and which one’s do not, #4.  Some parents fear that your child may inadvertently allow their ex to listen in and hear conversations.

 

 

Facetime

A safe and secure way parents interact with kids is a perfect vehicle to stay in contact during the extended summer time.  Kids should be able to know when to expect a call during the day from mom or dad.  We suggest also playing games with young kids on skypito.

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Remember to use common sense and be respectful when talking to your child on facetime. We knew of one parent who asked his child to walk around the house so he could look at the house his ex spouse was living in.

 

Xbox One

The ultimate interact device.  Xbox one allows you to share pictures, video’s with one another, as well as skype and interact with on line gaming.  Perhaps more parents should explore this option to keep you in the loop.  Perfect for preteens and teens.  Providing on-line gaming access for preteens is obviously an issue.  Provided rules are set in place, the xbox one seems to offer a perfect way to stay in touch with the kids over the summer.xbox one

 

 

 

 

 

Calendaring

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A calendar is a perfect way to keep your child secure about the coming weeks.  If you are tech savvy our suggestion go to the google apps on google chrome and install the android calendar.  Create a new calendar and insert pictures for different events for the summer time

 

Photo Album

Add activities like creating a photo album to build memories of mom and dad’s summer time event.  Remember the summer time can be FUN time but its up to the parents to help reduce stress and manage the time in a POSITIVE WAY!

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Kids in the Middle: Gender Dysphoria

Every child should be able to explore who they are and what they are.  In 2017 this has expanded to children exploring their sexual identity.  The topic, by itself, is highly controversial.  Lets start with basic definitions:

Basic Definitions:

Gender Dysphoria:  Gender dysphoria or GD is the stress a person experiences as a result of the sex and gender they were assigned at birth.

Cisgender:  denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.

Transgender:  denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex.

It is important to note that the rate of transgender population is extremely high around 44% in men and about 38% in women.   https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/AFSP-Williams-Suicide-Report-Final.pdf  

The failure to feel accepted by family is a huge factor in why suicide rates are so high.  The question is how do we help these individuals feel supported and find their path in life?  In 2017 that is not an easy answer.  The purpose of this article is NOT to support one position over the other.  The purpose of this article is to EDUCATE the reader in the positions being taken.

One stream of thought is to help children with GD START AT THE VERY BEGINNING develop into the body of their choice.  Young boys as early as age 9, for example, can be prescribed hormone blockers to stop their bodies from naturally evolving into a young man.  The theory would be that children will feel more accepted and less alienated and less inclined to inflict self harm.

On the other hand, The American Pediatric Society  stated that 80 percent to 95 percent of pre-pubertal youth with GD do not persist in their GD.    Given that statistic one could infer from this report that prescribing hormone blockers to children could do MORE harm than good.  Certain critics actually go so far as to say that providing children with hormone blockers amounts to child abuse.

https://www.acpeds.org/the-college-speaks/position-statements/gender-dysphoria-in-children  

So what are we to do when parents take polarizing positions regarding their (gender dysphoric) child?  Divorce Courts will have to help make decisions on how children with gender dysphoria will grow and develop.

Basic thoughts:

  1.  The child should be initially assessed by a psychologist to determine the needs and wants of the child.  If a mental health issue is raised it should be addressed and assessed.
  2. Appoint a parent facilitator to listen to the parents concerns and then help them  develop a parenting plan to meet the needs of the child.
  3. Direct the parents, if necessary to educational programs or support groups, to help them understand the issues confronting their child
  4. Create a plan of action that will allow the child to successfully integrate into school and with peers.
  5. Involve an amicus attorney or guardian ad litem,

It is our hope that additional resources will become available to assist family law courts in dealing with children who have gender dysphoria.

Kids Writing Contest – Ages 4-7

The best way for kids to open up is to pick up a crayon, pencil or pen.  Drawing, sharing stories allows kids to talk about fears, thoughts and feelings.  Help kids of divorce open up by telling their tale through the eyes of one green fruit, our main character in Mommy and Daddy Troubles.  Lets create an environment that provides kids a sense of community and  a platform to have a voice!